fucktoyfelix:

saying bdsm enables violence is like saying martial artists enable violence

targeting the people play fighting for fun, growth and connection is shallow. it critisizes aesthetics, not material effects

its a detraction from genuine causes of violence

and my experiences in kink and martial arts are genuinely very similar. they both enrich my life deeply

the biggest difference is that martial arts doesn’t carry stigma the way sex does. people have to critisize why they assume sex is inherently *different* from everything else