Noooooo!! XD Anon I’m so sorry that you feel insecure! I promise there are people who write way more OOC versions of characters with much more confidence, and you should feel empowered to write characters however you want!
But I’m glad that being able to tag it that way helps you feel safe! <3
Imagine grabbing your F/O’s hand and pressing it against your cheek, nuzzling them tenderly to get them to pay attention to you and show you their affection, while you show them yours.