We used to have extreme difficulty establishing boundaries too.
Even though its hard, it helps so much when you finally learn. I am so glad you are getting better at enforcing and blocking.
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I wouldn’t call them losers. But they do seem very immature. I hope they grow and learn.
😼🔪.exe using too much ram.
switching to low power mode (❄💪)
Hi. OuO
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- having to learn about boundaries in order to enforce them against your abusive family.
- coming online and having to explain to children that boundaries don’t enforce themselves and you can’t be mad at people who violate your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.
You are responsible for enforcing your own boundaries. This includes DNIs.
A boundary or DNI is not a magic spell that controls the behavior of other people when they’re around you.
A boundary is basically a sign saying what your behavior will be if someone violates your boundaries. Your behavior is that you will not interact with a person who violates your boundaries.
There will be two types of people who interact with your boundaries.
People who respect your boundaries: these people will see your boundaries and not cross them because they are being polite.
People who do not respect your boundaries: these people will violate your boundaries. And when they do it is up to you to enforce those boundaries by refusing to interact with those people.
Boundaries do not control other people’s behavior. They describe what behavior you will tolerate in your presence.
When someone violates your boundaries you remove them from your presence.