BlackHeart Biohazards

badmrkitty:

I don’t get antis sometimes. If you are uncomfortable about a trope, having people be unafraid to be open about said trope benefits you! If everyone can be honest about what they like, it reduces the chances that your friend of five years admits to being a closet fan of the trope you can’t stand.

If you want to avoid every human being that has ever thought positively about a trope, than bullying them into silence is not the way to go about that.

But that isn’t what you want is it. It isn’t about your comfort. Its about our discomfort.

It’s about controlling other people so that nothing that makes them personally uncomfortable exists. 😔

ladynorbert:

thecatwhowalksbyherself:

I use this with my hospice patients a lot. Because “is there anything I can do to help?” rarely gets a response. But, “I’ll be here till 6:30 and would like to do one thing to make your room more comfortable before I head out” frequently does get an answer. Often something they deem “too small to bug anyone with” like closing the blinds so there’s no reflection on the tv, or repositioning their socks because the heels have wandered into the front and are uncomfortable, or they want ice cream before dinner today, or getting an extra blanket.

lightheartedsuggestion:

What’s going to make you happy right now? Is it some cake? Is it a nap? Is it calling your mom? Is it going on a drive and blasting music? Is it taking a bath? Is it reading a book?

Check in with yourself because you deserve that happiness, whatever it is.

I also use this on myself. What’s one thing I could do to make my environment more comfortable right now? Does it cure my mental illness? Hell no! Does it make me feel more in control of my feelings and the world around me? You betcha!

I’m going to try to apply this to my current situation, since right now things feel very out of control. Thanks!

“What’s one thing I can do to make you more comfortable”. I’m putting this phrase in my bag of tricks.

Sometimes it genuinely feels that way.

It feels like it can’t be by accident.

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