Hey anon! Glad you started on that fic. We will love to see it when you’re done, if you share it!
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I’d like to as well! I’m curious what they said. I somehow doubt there was much to it though. They probably just said “proshippers are a cult!” and didn’t elaborate.
Sorry to have taken so long to answer this.
Struggling with what is and isn’t appropriate to say is common with autism, and something we struggle with as well.
While trauma dumping on someone is never ideal I think it’s been blown out of proportion and demonized lately.
Unless someone has a habit of unloading on people, there isn’t anything unusual about occasionally going overboard talking about yourself, including about upsetting things.
One just has to be mindful to respond to the needs of others. Trauma dumping can be manipulative– so can accusing people of trauma dumping.
People just need to be open to honest communication with one another, accept genuine criticism, and learn to recognize when “criticism” is being used as a manipulation tactic.
Fancops do not want to accept that 99% of the time, people who are attracted to characters that are portrayed as children or childlike are not attracted to real actual children.
It honestly makes me think of the scooby discourse.
Scooby Doo, and any furry character, is a drawing that has a collection of character traits attached to it. He’s not a real dog. He doesn’t smell, drool, have to go walkies, whatever.
Lolis are drawings that have a collection of character traits attached to them. They don’t whine, cry, need to be fed, have pores, whatever.
Most loli characters have absolutely nothing in common with real children.
Being attracted to a character doesn’t mean you’d be attracted to a real person who had any of the traits of the character.
Lolis don’t look like real children any more than furries look like real animals.
Being attracted to something in fiction doesn’t mean you are attracted to it in real life.
