traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors:

Things that are not justifications for someone abusing you:

• Saying, “no” to them
• Withholding personal information from them
• Refusing to hug, kiss, or otherwise touch them/be touched by them
• Disagreeing with them
• Avoiding them
• Having emotions
• Needing help
• Saying the “wrong” thing
• Defending yourself
• Asking questions
• Stimming
• Crying
• Refusing to go somewhere
• Asking for an apology
• Being mentally ill