I’m really happy to hear about šŸ‘— and your partner system. That’s great!

As for your situation, it’s familiar to me (šŸ˜¼šŸ”Ŗ). Specifically as Toko (an Jack) we were trans men, but canon does not reflect it.

Since you remember being trans in your life, my advice is just to go whole hog and write yourself as being trans in your fanfiction.

If anybody complains about it, block em!