I’m sorry for dumping this on you, but someone I just met keeps dumping all their lore and all their OCs on me, and doesn’t really give me a chance to talk about mine. When I bring up my ideas they just kind of overlook them and keep talking. When I tell them that a lot of text overwhelms me they break it all up into smaller bits and spam me with it over the day so I get back to like 30 messages that are the same length as it would have been otherwise. The content of their story is very abusive and triggering and often I’m just not mentally ready for that. They also ship their OC with my F/O and it’s kind of uncomfortable… I just don’t have the heart to tell them that I just don’t really wanna hear it… and I don’t wanna ghost them either because I feel like that would be immature and unfair. I’m not sure what to say to them or do
I am so sorry, anon, that’s a sucky situation to be in! I feel like a lot of us have been in a situation like this at one time or another.
You have a few paths in front of you.
Path one: The hard path, but the best one ideologically.
Communicate with them, and draw the boundary. Say to them explicitly, hey, you are making me uncomfortable. I don’t feel like you’re interested in what I have to say, and I feel like you’re just using me to dump all of your OC lore on. Some of the things you talk about make me uncomfortable, and I’d rather not hear bout them. That’s not a fair and reciprocal relationship.
And then if they throw a tantrum about it, you block them.
Path two: the easier but kinda shitty path.
Just block and ghost them. It’s not worth the emotional investment to try to talk to them and risk a confrontation.
Path three: the weenie path (don’t do this)
Just sit there and keep accepting a one-sided relationship that isn’t working for you and is making you uncomfortable.
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