Kink is meant to be fun. It is meant to be enjoyed by all parties involved. There’s a lot of romantic symbolism in suffering for your D/s but in reality, if the s-type isn’t finding joy in the scenes you do, you need to make changes to it.
Having limits or complicated feelings about certain (even common) kinks does not make you a less worthy submissive. The power exchange is granted by the sub, not taken by the Dom.
Please honor yourself and make sure your terms are being met before giving someone a right to your body that they have not earned.
I reblogged this the other day saying something similar (below), however I wanted to share your tags because you worded it well
a good kink relationship needs to be good for both the sub and the dom. In other words they both need to get something positive out of it, and they both need to have their boundaries known and respected.
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