The thing about trauma dumping, is that you probably haven’t had to opportunity to talk about it before. You have been silenced and scared and keeping your head down. Then someone comes along who doesn’t seem dangerous, you let it all go because it’s eating at you inside, you need to tell someone. Then they get annoyed… Say they aren’t your therapist… And to shut up… And you go back to being quiet, scared, with your head down.
Spilling out all your trauma on a stranger, or other person who isn’t prepared for it is inappropriate.
However.
Inappropriate does not mean evil.
Inappropriate does not mean unworthy of love.
Inappropriate does not mean abusive.
All people– whether they’re trauma survivors, mentally disabled, neurodivergent, or not– all of us, sometimes act inappropriately and cross social boundaries.
When you cross a social boundary, it’s okay and normal for the person who’s boundary you crossed to want to withdraw their presence from you.
It’s not okay for them to abuse, bully, insult or demean you because of it.
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