As a fictive of a popular character from a popular media, unfortunately, filtering and avoiding that media doesn’t help me avoid it a lot of times. I still see it in places often, especially the pairing involving my source that triggers me. It really sucks (though it has worked over time as a sort of desensitization, at least?) So, I get why other fictives are upset about seeing content of their source that’s triggering to them, but I’ll never understand the sense of entitlement some fictives (it’s always antis in the cases of it I’ve seen, I’ve noticed. There’s possibly a correlation there) have where they think being a fictive gives them the right to shame and guilt trip strangers into not making that content at all. I’d never demand the fandom for my source stop making the content that makes them happy just because it triggers me. I could ask people who don’t tag it properly to tag it, but for me, because of the fandom’s size, that would be fighting an uphill battle and it’s easier to just block those that avoid all my filters, even if the person who didn’t tag properly would be willing to edit their post’s tags. But the idea of guilt tripping them? Of being like: “hey, this is a trigger for me and you creating content of it makes you a bad person who is hurting me, a fictive of your favorite character!” That’s just… it feels so intentionally malicious and cruel, and I really try to be understanding of these fictives, I do, but it’s just so… I can’t put it into words. Feel free to call it out if I’m being out of line here. It’s just that with how often I see these incidents happen with fictives who are antis, and given antis usual behavior, it does feel like a sort of calculated malicious emotional manipulation and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Antis absolutely use the distress of fictives in a manipulative and calculated way, which is the exact reason we made that post.
We have screencaps and a draft of a very manipulative post from an anti who’s a fictive that we are still trying to decide if we are going to address directly.
Cause like. We are from Steven Universe and Danganronpa, so we get being distressed by what you see in fandom.
There is no way you are ever going to avoid all the material that upsets you, so you just gotta block block block!
I get SSOOOOO upset by some of the stuff I see about “me” in fandom, but there is nothing I can or should do about it.
I just gotta do what I can to protect myself.
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