Do you guys have any advice for breaking bad habits? I know I should turn away from drama and gossip stuff (it’s really bad for my mental health specifically) and I’m getting to a point where I can stop and close whatever is upsetting but? My brain won’t let it go? I try to do my hobbies and the silence gets filled with thought, I try to watch a video and I keep getting distracted and upset myself because my brain won’t stop. I’m really sorry if this is one of those asks you guys made the new sideblog for; I’m bad at telling that kinda thing and since it’s called “confessions” I figured it wouldn’t be appropriate.
It’s always okay to send us an ask if you’re looking for advice. The new blog @proshipper-confessions is for shouting into the void.
I wish I had a better answer for you, but I don’t know if we’ve ever managed to break a single bad habit in our life.
Our coping strategy for when we’re doing a harmful behavior relies completely and entirely on ‘switch with someone else who doesn’t do that’ which is not broadly applicable.
It sounds like you’re doing everything right, anon. Distracting yourself, trying to disengage, trying to remove yourself from a situation.
But sometimes you (general) have to admit to yourself that you can do everything right and still be fucked up and upset about something.
Sometimes its just not possible to disengage.
And that’s okay.
Mental health is not a lightswitch you can turn on and off. People are not input/output machines.
Accept and forgive yourself for being upset and fixated, and be ready to work on healing from the damage when you are able to.
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