Hey @rosierugosa I hope it’s okay that I stole your tags because YES.
Because sexual desire is so weird and alien to me, personally, I find myself more accepting of weird and alien sex: I’m definitely not a monsterfucker in that I don’t wanna fuck the monster, but I fully accept and respect all monsterfucking because hey, sex in general – straight, gay, or otherwise! – is already so weird to me. Wanting to fuck Chad McDude down the street is just as strange to me as wanting to fuck the mothman. So my attitude is…go for it, I guess! Here’s a water bottle.
Same here, I’m not afraid to admit I’ve written a couple of filthy what if fanfics about the evil demon bad guy who totally is a giant dragon looking thing and the OC ninja chick totally getting it on that one time. That’s kind of hot. Wouldn’t it be weird if they fricked? Three times? Because he wants her soul for some blood ritual and enemies to lovers?
But yeah agreed. Sex is weird, I’m weird about it, whatever.
Just go for it!
How to spot the asexual: It’s all fun and games until you try to make them read self insert smut.
I will read the kinkiest filth, but try to mentally put me there and I’ll click away superfast.
personally im the opposite – i enjoy kinky shit as an ace ONLY if its self insert stuff. if i feel like an outsider watching someone else it does nothing for me but make me uncomfortable.
but as an ace person curious about sex, self inserts are a fun way to explore my sense of sexuality without Actually having to have sex, without it being real. monsters and aliens and weird shit is mroe appealing precisely BECAUSE its less real. kink is more fun because it makes a game out of sex, rather than just an act that i dont understand the appeal of. being able to put myself into the game makes it easier for me to understand and appreciate why anyone cares about sex.
but the point remains! being ace doesnt mean you need to be puritanical about sex!
even if youre an ace person who wants NOTHING to do with sex in real life or in fiction, you are allowed and encouraged to have that boundary! but thats never an excuse to condemn others for engaging with it in a different way. and im VERY tired of seeing people say “think of the aces!” as a justification to get rid of sexual content in queer spaces, when i NEVER want that as an ace person
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