when i read takes that boil down to “its ok to write murder in fiction because you end someone’s life, but rape in fiction is not okay because the victim has to live with the trauma”, i can only think that these people think there is no way to recover from the trauma of sexual abuse, which is VERY sad to see honestly.
(edit) idk maybe that was a nothing post, i wanted to express that there is life– and GOOD life – after abuse. you CAN recover, and yes it’s hard, but it is so worth it. to see so many people suggest that rape victims would be better off being murdered is horrid.
This ain’t a nothing post, this is so fucking important.
Whenever I see “sexual assault is the worst thing that can happen to you ever” from an anti I get sad.
It’s actually really sad, bc they also often promote a toxic picture perfect version of healing thays just unrealistic
It’s part of the way that they sort people into “good survivors” who deserve their pity, and “bad survivors” who deserve their scorn, derision and mockery.
In which “Good survivors” are those who are socially acceptable and “bad survivors” are anyone who doesn’t fit their puritanical standards
Which is why they despise both pure and impure regression, or anything that isn’t talking it out in therapy and magically begin better.
correct! They don’t care about healing, they care about you preforming “normal” to their standards.
I’ve also encountered this weird view among a lot of antis, that if it’s possible to heal from a trauma (especially to heal completely) that it wasn’t that bad in the first place. So part of their “normal” is quite literally politely and quietly suffering to a significant degree.
Idk if it’s because, if we’re not suffering, they can’t use us as a rhetorical device (I don’t see why that would stop them though, knowing antis), or if potentially because some of them are struggling or plateau-ing in their recovery and therefore are lashing out because they can’t believe it’s possible due to their own trauma/pain.
If it’s the latter, while their actions are still not okay, I DO understand and have no judgment for those feelings. If any antis see this I’d like to offer that there’s a good chance peace will come in time, if you’re gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself.
Discussion ¬