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I (👑🍸) mean this with all the love in my heart but it feels like some of you have forgotten that you can lie to people on the internet.
It is acceptable to lie to people on the internet.
if people at home call you he/him pronouns and you want people online to call you by she/her pronouns you don’t owe anybody the knowledge of what they call you at home. You don’t have to call yourself trans if you don’t want to. You can just call yourself a girl and move on.
You don’t owe anybody on the ‘net the full veracity of your physical vessel.
I am so, so happy that being transgender has become so much more normal and acceptable but I really feel like it has simultaneously done irreparable damage to the expectation of privacy and the commonality of lying to people on the internet.
Back in my day if you wanted people to see you as a 15 year old girl you just told people you were a 15 year old girl and deleted all your accounts if somebody doxxed you– and remember that you shouldn’t doxx people.
Privacy is good, people! you don’t owe everyone online the naked truth of your soul at all times.
It to sound like a broken record here, but I do blame tiktok discourse for this bs
On tiktok you don’t *have* privacy, I’m not sure if this is a thing on other platforms, but other then the obligatory face sharing to get any kind of “audience”, there is the costant expectation of denouncing what “qualifications” you have when discussing a subject
Often you’ll see people start a video with “I am *insert extremly private minority laundry list* so I cna say that (…)”
There is also just a general push to have 0 fucking boundaries on it, which is ironic considering the whole app is 10x less actual communication then tumblr.
I have learned people’s most personal traumas discussed as qualification to talk in discourse. And if you’re not perosnally affected and ya talk ab it, you’re gonna get doggpiled
TBH, when I first came back into fandom after a seven year break in 2017, I noticed this trend even then and that was well before TikTok existed. Much like TikTok, there is no way to private anything or limit the audience and ppl were pushed into sharing their trauma to , especially after fandom puritanism became a thing. If anything, that practice was ported over to TikTok from here.
Even still, the fact that’s it’s gotten to this point at all, where kids believe they have to share every aspect of their life to complete strangers, is just so very sad & ridiculous.
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