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“I like to write about it in fiction” does not mean “I desire it to happen in real life”, and never has.
What you want to write about doesn’t necessarily mean anything about you, besides that you want to write about it.
Could…could people possibly expand on this? I’ve been reading the reblogs and tags, but honestly still wrapping my head around this.
(I am sorry for coming up out of nowhere, I was in the writing tags and saw your reblog)
Basically, it just means, like, for example, if you like to write murder–mysteries, that doesn’t mean you find actual murder entertaining, or that you want to be a detective. It just means that you like to write about it.
Like you said, writing about threesomes doesn’t mean you want to a be apart of one, it just means you find that situation, or the perspective of someone who is nonmonogamous, complex or intriguing enough to write about.
At least, that’s my interpretation of it!
it’s the same way for media consumption, by the way. playing a violent video game doesn’t make you a more violent person(we’ve studied this!!), watching a lot of cop shows doesn’t automatically make you pro-cop, etc etc. assuming otherwise is assuming an inability to think critically; to know what you personally believe and know real-life details related to what you are writing or viewing.
two people can watch the same exact movie and come away with very different interpretations, because they are thinking about it differently and focusing on different aspects. and while this one may be harder to wrap your mind around, the same is true about creation. the same thing can be written with very different intentions, down to the details and framing.
and one final thing to note…. not every story HAS a moral to instill. sometimes they are just showing you a thing that happened, and you have to draw your own conclusions.
I love James Bond.
In real life I would probably want to put a spike through his skull within thirty seconds of meeting his bougie imperialist ass.
But I don’t watch the movies for some kind of moral, I watch them because it’s fun to see a dude drive like that and explode things.
Also things exploding in a movie explicitly are NOT exploding in real life, which lets me go “cool!!! The ENTIRE HANGAR exploded!!!!” instead of “oh fuck. Was anyone still in there???”
This also applies to things like rape, incest, underage sex, and other things that many people will tell you if you read/write/watch it makes you a bad person, monster, pedophile, etc etc.
This is categorically untrue, and I tell you that as someone who reads/writes/watches content like that (game of thrones anyone?) and also as a mental health professional. To the latter point, I want to emphasize how important it is to reject this idea that if you like to read/write/watch things that people insist is “problematic” that you are a bad, monstrous person who will inevitably hurt other people.
We internalize so many messages from the world around us, and this one in particular is damaging to your psyche and your worldview. Being a good person is about being thoughtful and caring and trying to do better each day, not about what you read/write/watch.
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