office-vampire:

You can use all the non-accusatory or “compassionate” language you want, but folks can tell when your “Seek help” comes from your negative or lesser perceptions of them. They can tell when you say “Get Therapy” that you, on the other side of the screen, wish they would keep their weird or uncomfortable identities private, wish they thought lesser of themselves so you would not have to be made uncomfortable by someone else’s pride or acceptance of themselves.

They can tell.