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If you have BPD you need to ask your loved ones for reassurance instead of assuming they don’t like you or intended to hurt you. I know it can be really hard, but establishing that you need it will make people far, far more understanding.
Don’t say, for example “do you hate me? I’ve been awful you should hate me” that is unproductive and makes both of you feel bad
Instead, try “hey, I noticed you used this tone/words/etc, what did you mean by that? I need some reassurance right now”
It’s not perfect and not everyone will help but it does work. It empowers both of you and can help you work towards a future where you don’t even have to ask
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