fromfiction:

one of the frustrating things about being fictionkin or fictive– especially with a source that’s very popular– is that sometimes a popular fandom headcanon or fanon can distort your memory, or make you doubt your memory of the things that happened to you.

So this is a reminder for all my fictionkin and fictive friends.

Just because something’s a popular headcanon–hell, even if something is actually canon to your source material– that doesn’t mean that’s the way it happened to you.

Don’t let outside influences distort what you know about yourself– esspecially if they’re upsetting to you.