Can I like vent about pro self shipping cause I’m scrolling through your posts, I’ve been brain rotting about Black butler and I kinda just wanna let my thoughts out in a safe place (if this gets long or annoying feel free to delete, sorry!) I didn’t know about pro shippers or antis at all until i get into the self shipping space and I’m glad I did get into that space for the most part. But I’m gonna be 18 this year (in December) and besides having anxieties about becoming an adult now I’m also having anxieties about how it’s gonna affect my life in fandom. I’m a pretty socially anxious person I don’t have many friends as is but there’s this nagging in my head that the dang day I turn 18 someone’s gonna see the minors in my F/O list and I’m gonna be mauled. Or they’ll see me liking pro proship posts and THEN I’ll get mauled. Probably both of them won’t happen I realize but I’m still nervous. I remember seeing “pro ship dni” and going “Okay! I don’t know what this but whatever!” Dude I’m mutuals with so many people with that in their blog and now I feel like I really should just become an eternal lurker. As I read proship posts and stuff I find myself mostly agreeing I kinda identify mostly as a proshipper (not publicly though) like I have a pretty big crush on Ciel Phantomhive and Alois Trancy and even though I age them up in my head I still find myself feeling bad, I don’t think I should though! I think purity “non problematic” culture in fiction is mostly stupid and I want to purge it from my brain as much as possible. That was literally just me dumping my thoughts sorry if it was kinda vapid at the end lmao
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, anon. I’m glad to be able to give you a safe place to put them.
As for your worries about antis coming after you the second you’re 18, that is unfortunately a very real possibility.
The best way to avoid it happening is just to
- block all the vocal antis in the self ship tag (anyone with proship dni banners etc, or who you see posting about proshippers being gross)
- block any rude antis in your inbox without ever thinking about them again.
If you’re not a discourse blog there is absolutely zero reason to respond to anon hate. you should just block the message instead.
Blocking anon hate:
- makes the person who sent the hate mad
- deletes the message from your inbox
- makes it so they can never send you anon hate from that account again
- makes your blog a nicer environment to be in
- discourages future anon hate because antis looking at your blog don’t see any messages from their peers.
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