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Rape is not bad because it’s gross
It’s bad because it tangibly hurts real people. It’s bad because it brings suffering and trauma. The rhetoric of people parroting this idea that fetish, kink, and/or online erotica with dark themes is morally the same as rape because they are “equally disgusting” is genuinely one of the most terrifying and awful takes I have seen. Do you know what else is disgusting to many, many people? I’ll have you take a moment.
Gay sex. Gay sex is disgusting to many people. Conservatives who try to enforce bans on queer visibility and rights used to do so by comparing it to rape and/or sex before marriage, among other strategies.
Gay sex is not morally reprehensible just because people find it disgusting. And neither are kink or fetish practices, and neither is some random internet erotica that you find gross. The morally reprehensible thing here is comparing real trauma of real people to on the one side consensual sex practices and on the other– written or drawn erotica that hurts absolutely no real people by virtue of existing (I cannot speak for those who purposefully read/consume erotica that triggers them or disgusts them for some unknown purpose, however). Queerness is not rape. Kink is not rape. Fictional erotica IS NOT RAPE. The only thing that is rape is, well, actual rape.
And it is not only harmful and invalidating to survivors of sa but also harmful to marginalized fetish, kink, queer, and creative communities to compare any sort of consensual sex or fictional erotica to rape. Because I promise you that “super weird and gross omegaverse rapefic” is absolutely nothing like the real thing, and does not hurt anyone. And also someone wearing a pup hood in public is not raping your eyes.
Do I block someone who keeps reblogging from us despite having us on their DNI list, or do I try to talk to them about it? :/
I am actually looking for advice/opinions /gen
I mean ngl usually when people follow me/reblog from me while having my content in their DNI I kind of just. Leave them be about it?
But if it’s bothering me I’ll usually just block them 🤷♀️
If it were our content it would be one thing but it is about our existence. :/
Oh then I’d 100% just block them
If you WANT to talk to them I won’t tell you not to or like… discourse you from trying to communicate. But I usually have enough people being rude in my inbox without me talking to them first so I tend to avoid messaging strangers unless I have to.
I can’t find a way to message them anyway so I guess I am just going to block them and forget about them /lh