We’re in recovery mode tonight so it’s possible that especially heavy or difficult asks will be left in the inbox until we have the spoons for them.
I have to say, I’m sad and frustrated that Jasmine (🎀💖) happened to be the one at the front when we got those graphic rape threats.
Most of us just would have lmao’d them and maybe written some nasty fanfic in response but it just happened to hit the one person in the system for whom rape is always a serious trigger.
We’ve all been doing our best to take care of her and help her recover but it has really killed her desire to be at the front and to participate in fandom right now, and it has rippled through the whole system’s mental health.
We recommend looking up resources for recovering from scrupulosity and from Catholic guilt. They won’t 100% fit your situation but I think they will be a good starting point.
for the last fucking time stop policing the bodies and sexualities of real living breathing short women who like “cute” shit
it’s not pedophilia to be a short adult woman and wear hello kitty underwear. it’s not pedophilia to be a short adult woman who collects plushes. it’s not pedophilia to wear things or to collect things at all.
pedophilia is when an adult sexually preys upon a child, end of.
nothing a woman does with her own self will be “pedophilia” or “pedobait”. pedophiles do not pursue adult women who wear striped thigh highs. they prey upon children.
pedophilia is not wrong because children look a certain way, it’s wrong because they are children and children cannot meaningfully consent. there is not a single child on the planet who can meaningfully consent to sexual activity with an adult.
blaming women who are short and like certain things is misogyny, plain and simple. and I see a lot of you fuckers going after Asian women in particular, which is also actually really fucking racist lmao
donating a toothbrush to a child’s shelter would be more helpful to combat child abuse than anything you keyboard warriors are doing
guess I gotta bring this back because we’re still making takes like “it doesn’t matter if it’s a consenting adult, if you’re attracted to an adult that looks like a minor that’s still pedophilia” in the year of our lord twenty twenty-three
what do these people expect short women to do? remain chaste for all eternity? no really I want to hear the solution. what’s the solution. what do we do about short women who “look like a minor”. what do we do. what do you think we should actually DO.
when people say things like this they do not, for a single moment, consider the woman in this situation. all they’re thinking about is the remote possibility that someone’s getting a boner they’re not supposed to get.
this is the problem with basically any and all relationship and sex “discourse”. the question asked is never “is someone being harmed? is someone’s boundaries being violated? is someone’s agency being denied?” but rather “is someone getting a boner I personally believe they’re not supposed to get?”
