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That sounds like a really difficult balancing act to strike, anon, I’m sorry that you’re struggling with these issues.
I’m not sure that I have any specific advice to give– we have a lot of experience with anxiety, and autism, but not OCD specifically.
Maybe there’s someone following us who has some good advice. Please feel free to chime in!
misguided protectors of the trot
some unique ways are so overwhelmed by tales of woe that if you are joyful in your trot buds appear and say ‘you cant exist you must be a parody’. it is amazing how hard it is for neurotypical cis straight buds to accept someone could just joyfully be queer and autistic
entire writing career has obviously had pushback from conservative devils but a few leftwing buds trying to police voices for special online points is always so eyerolling. ‘chuck is homophobic a book about queer joy MUST be parody’ ‘chuck is ableist hes too aware to be autistic’
these scoundrels say ‘wait this is not dramatic tragedy about gay men overcoming discrimination? THEN IT IS NOT REAL QUEER ART’ or ‘wait your story about autism is not about how it was SO HARD but you finally made it when a neurotypical bud took you under their wing? FAKE STORY’
i am betting some who do this (sometimes literally to chuck over the years) will read this and say ‘well thats not me.’ and i have to say… ‘BUD IT IS YOU’. it might not be as obvious and you may think theres more nuance but THIS is the thought process just below surface
so what is point? point is: to all my well meaning leftwing buds, your love and care is appreciated but you do not need to police communities you are not in. support all you want but SUPPORT and POLICING are very different things. gatekeeping is not your job
second. work to accept that your buds CAN MAKE JOYFUL ART. they can also make STRANGE, SILLY, FRIGHTENING, SICKENING, PLAYFUL, or PUNK ROCK art. theres no one APPROVED way to express these perspectives, and if you are outside this community it is not your job to keep the gate
as time goes on and buds realize what i am doing with my creations these bad takes get rarer and rarer. i am DOIN VERY GOOD. my post is mostly out of concern for young buckaroo artists without a big following, who want to build something unexpected and strange and bold
let queer buckaroos write stories with happy endings OR terrible endings that make you squirm. let autistic buckaroos paint with joy and complexity or deep sadness and minimalism. the way these voices get tokenized is by insisting they need to have ONE SPECIFIC WAY
proving love is accepting that we all have our own unique trot, even you. ESPECIALLY YOU. get out there and create YOUR THING buckaroo. thank you for reading buds. LOVE IS REAL
The best way to stick it to fancops is to not give any thought to what someone elses’ opinion of what you’re writing might be.
Fancops want you to worry over the acceptability and perceive morality of what you write. Not giving a shit takes away their power in the most poetic way possible. Most of the time they just want attention anyway.
That Dipper and Mable fic sounds like a really interesting character piece, also! It’s always great how one can start with one idea for a story only to see it turn into something different!
Hi again, anon.
I’m not surprised to hear that that person said that.
While expressing frustration with a difficulty to maintain relationships with people in that way can be genuine and sincere, it is also manipulative, whether deliberately so or accidentally so.
From personal experience I can tell you before I learned to set and maintain boundaries I was trapped in a few toxic relationships (including an abusive romantic relationship) by people who constantly reminded me that “everybody leaves me.”
It’s good to be a good friend.
But someone else’s mental health is never more important than your own.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.