https://youtube.com/shorts/JzbmrlX9pqM?feature=share CW: Abuse, ableism, graphic description of animal death, don’t look at the comments I found this video of a dad saying he threw his autistic 30 year old on the street. The parent took away a 30 year olds computer for watching lolicon, which lead to a meltdown which ended in the death of the cat. Then the parent chucked him out on the street. Screaming that they would kill them. And throwing consoles on the curb. Just everything about this video is so awful

by on February 2, 2023 at 7:26 pm
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Hi, anon. Thank you for your intention to highlight the terrible child abuse and ableism that is rampant in our society.

We will not be watching this video.

The content that you have described is extremely similar to the abuse that we suffered, as a child, teenager, and young adult, with a similar degree of violence, rage, and ableism.

To say that I think that watching this video would be extremely triggering for us is putting it lightly.

I will admit that just reading your description was very difficult for us.

Many people in our society– especially fancops– like to pretend that child abuse is not already normal and accepted in our society. But it is. It’s just hidden from view.

Child abuse, is frankly, at this moment in time, more socially ingrained and normal than acceptance of mental illness and neurodiversity is.

Edited to add: its come to my attention that the context of this is very different than I assumed from this first message. Please read the follow up here for more context.

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Antis will get upset when you judge them or make fun of them for their thought crimes but when other people, especially profic and proshippers do it, they’re suddenly a danger to other people that will act on their thoughts according to said antis. So antis, thought crimes are not real crimes only when it’s convenient for you???

by on February 2, 2023 at 7:26 pm
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It’s because fancops “morality” is literally ego-centric.

It’s based on how they themselves feel about things, rather than a consistent worldview based on any specific rational principle.

That’s why you see antis fighting with each other and declaring each other “proshippers” all the time.

Because each of them draws their own line in their mind, based on their personal comfort.

It sucks!

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So kinda a random thing but if you don’t mind I’d love some advice (and if you do feel free to ignore!) So i recently got commissioned to draw someone’s self ship, all went well, I got the money and they like the first wip I’m over half way done now, I went to there blog to see if I could find some more refs of their s/i when I saw “proship dni” I feel guilty now because I’m breaking their dni, but I can’t refund them so I am going to finish all the owed work but now I feel bad doing so 

by on February 2, 2023 at 7:26 pm
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Oh gosh anon, this is a tough situation to be in (and sorry I’m getting to it a little late, we had a busy night last night.)

My advice is that since they have accepted your commission, you should just not say anything, and let it pass.

It’s possible they’re the type of ‘dni proship’ who just has it there so they don’t get harassed by antis.

If it makes you uncomfortable to interact with them after this, I would just say to let the completion of your commission be your last interaction with them.

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I’m sorry for dumping this on you, but someone I just met keeps dumping all their lore and all their OCs on me, and doesn’t really give me a chance to talk about mine. When I bring up my ideas they just kind of overlook them and keep talking. When I tell them that a lot of text overwhelms me they break it all up into smaller bits and spam me with it over the day so I get back to like 30 messages that are the same length as it would have been otherwise. The content of their story is very abusive and triggering and often I’m just not mentally ready for that. They also ship their OC with my F/O and it’s kind of uncomfortable… I just don’t have the heart to tell them that I just don’t really wanna hear it… and I don’t wanna ghost them either because I feel like that would be immature and unfair. I’m not sure what to say to them or do

by on February 2, 2023 at 7:26 pm
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I am so sorry, anon, that’s a sucky situation to be in! I feel like a lot of us have been in a situation like this at one time or another.

You have a few paths in front of you.

Path one: The hard path, but the best one ideologically.

Communicate with them, and draw the boundary. Say to them explicitly, hey, you are making me uncomfortable. I don’t feel like you’re interested in what I have to say, and I feel like you’re just using me to dump all of your OC lore on. Some of the things you talk about make me uncomfortable, and I’d rather not hear bout them. That’s not a fair and reciprocal relationship.

And then if they throw a tantrum about it, you block them.

Path two: the easier but kinda shitty path.

Just block and ghost them. It’s not worth the emotional investment to try to talk to them and risk a confrontation.

Path three: the weenie path (don’t do this)

Just sit there and keep accepting a one-sided relationship that isn’t working for you and is making you uncomfortable.

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