We never are unhappy to get asks, anon! So glad you’re having fun with the community.
A lot of our self ships have age gaps that are smaller than our irl age gap too! 🤝 Antis would consider us and our irl spouse very problematic! 🤣
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No specifics requested, so I (😼🔪) am gonna answer this for my Sabretooth kintype.
💗 What helps you feel closer to your source (in a positive way)?
The best thing for me is dressing up in the kind of stuff I used to wear. Big, chunky masculine jewelry, fur, military surplus stuff. Growing my hair out. It’s good shit.
👬 How do you feel about doubles?
I have never met a Sabretooth double here (and don’t expect to) but I wouldn’t mind it. Ran into all kinds of alternate universe bastards while I was living that life. (also, we as a group in sinister don’t mind doubles in general. if you;re a double and we block you, its not cause you were a double its cause you were an asshole.)
♧ – how do the characters involved in the pairing respond when asked about their romantic life (such as if they have a partner)? does the answer change depending on the asker?
In their public lives Harry and Norman are both at least somewhat obsessed with projecting the white bread image of a happy, successful nuclear family. Norman calls himself a ‘widower’ and says he’s ‘only married to his work these days’.
Harry, meanwhile, (in the 70s) describes himself as as ‘a bit of a swinger’ when he’s in college, and then ‘happily married’ (a lie) once he’s with Liz. However, when the timeline loops and Harry is a teen in the 2000s, he just says “its complicated” about his love life 😆
In their criminal lives it’s a different story, of course. I think Norman-Goblin probably just laughs, or makes an offcolor remark if you ask him. Harry-Goblin meanwhile describes actively himself as ‘a nasty degenerate pervert with daddy issues.’ 😉
My personal best tip is to separate yourself from the people and places you think will harass you.
Start a new, proship-aligned online identity, block anyone you think might run into and recognize you immediately, and just start posting and making friends!
Our followers may have some more tips for you for unlearning the actual anti rhetoric.
Anon I’ve been in your shoes when I was around 18. Never been an anti but that doesn’t mean you can’t have internalized anti/puritant views on specific issues you’re unaware of. That’s actually very common experience, even with people who are for ship and let ship
Whenever you feel like shipping something is immoral or “if I like AxB, what does that say about me?” just step away from all emotions related things and ask yourself – how precisely does shipping this make me a bad person? (It doesn’t) How precisely am I “romanticizing” xyz when my reactions to xyz in fiction and irl couldn’t be more different? (It’s fiction, not how to xyz guide not morality guide). Who precisely am I hurting and how?
And soon you’ll start realizing that those questions around morality begin falling apart once you objectively observe the situation.
When I started shipping one ship that was toxic on steroids, I had similar internalized antis views. ‘I can’t like this, it’s wrong on so many levels’. Then I had fortunate, or actually misfortune, that someone close to me irl was in extremely toxic relationship. It lasted for several months and was pretty ugly. To cut story short – I can to realization that shipping unhealthy dynamics in fiction didn’t cloud my judgment one bit. Same tropes I liked seeing in fanfics I despised and deeply reprimanded irl (such as jealousy or stalking). So it helped me realize that liking xyz in fiction or shipping AxB no matter how wrapped speaks absolutely nothing about my morals or views on life/relationships