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seeing kink is not participating in kink. if there is a Dom/sub couple walking around in public, and you see them, you are not being forcibly pulled into their dynamic. you have no relationship with these people. you are not being forced to participate in their kink. a girl walking around in a revealing her crop top because her boyfriend likes her breasts is not forcing you to participate in her boyfriend’s breast fetish, and a guy wearing a dog mask to pride with his boyfriend is not forcing you to participate in his fetish, either. the idea that percieving kink (which has historically included gay attraction, which is why gay people and kinky people are in this shit together) means the viewer is being forced into non-consensual sexual activity is a cornerstone of homophobic, sex negative conservative arguments.
you being personally uncomfortable seeing something =/= you are being forced into something, or that the people you are seeing are morally in the wrong for your emotions. you have a right to feel uncomfortable, look away, go somewhere else, ignore them, or even vent about them to your friends, but that uncomfortable feeling does not justify falling in line with dangerous conservative rhetoric.
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