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i haven’t heard the word “cyberstalking” in a long time but it used to be a recognizably bad thing to stalk someone online, to try to dig up everything you can on them, follow their every move online, obsessively post about them, barrage them with messages, block evade, etc – but now it’s just normalized and seen as something totally “ok” to do if the person in question is “problematic” in some way – like the same people who say “if your partner does this run” will turn around and do the same thing to a stranger online they dont even know and they don’t even think twice – it’s abuse, it’s harassment… just stop it
It’s also now expected and encouraged for all disagreement and criticism to be public, but that’s literally the scary hostile choice. That’s what can escalate into a shit storm out of both people’s control. I get called a creep now for sending disagreements to private message when that is literally the safer more respectful option and what you were always supposed to do. You save the callouts for the last resort when someone rejects any friendly resolution and is actually causing a problem.
Oh wait, that last comment is from the fucker who keeps DMing people who interact with me to ‘privately’ slander me as a pedophile/rapist/child pornographer as part of a months long harassment campaign.
I’ve been targetted for months, but other victims have been subject to this shit for years, from this same person.
People I have never met will message me to ask why this stranger is DMing them to lie about me hurting kids, just because they reblogged a post I commented on.
Gee. I wonder why people might be calling that behaviour ‘creepy.’
Almost like that’s the literal, exact ‘stalking’ behaviour being criticized or something! Wow!
Trying to use ‘private’ channels to further your very public harassment campaigns is not the ‘normal’ or ‘appaopriate’ use of those channels.
Indeed, that exact type of misuse, targetting marginalized people with whisper campaigns to ensure that they are isolated and unable to reach out for help when you harass them?
Is WHY people are so goddamn hesitant to talk privately NOW.
Fucking imagine wondering why people call your DMs creepy when you’re going up to a total stranger to say ‘hey this other person you don’t know is a child molester, you can tell because they post about Sailor Moon sometimes’
Fuckin yeah it’s creepy whenvyou’re sexually harassing strangers unprompted as part of your long term goal of making sure people you find vaguely uncomfortable know that they should always feel completely unsafe at all times because you will be accusing them of the same sex crimes that historically lead to lynchings.
~~~’But its fine, I’m not a bigot, my targets just happen to usually by queer POC by coincidence.’~~~
BTW, this public statement?
After months of being harassed by this asshole misusing private messages?
This is the appropriate time to use it.
After years of harassing others, months of harassing me, repeated refusals to speak with any of us privately, constantly forcing us to hash these things out in public so we can be accused of attention seeking and attacking Bog’s reputation, with literally every other avenue closed.
With this post literally being used by Bog to justify why that continued harassment is ‘morally good’ actually because unlike victims forced to speak in public, Bog gets to be sneaky about slander because it’s ‘morally right to keep it private’?
Because Bog gets privacy and we get slander?
THIS. Is when public statements become fucking necessary.
Because that fucker isn’t saying ‘use private channels to discuss and de-escalate’ though that’s certainly how the comment looks.
So, let me be clear here:
Bogleech regularly DMs total strangers accusing them of being pedophiles or child molesters if they interact with posts including the URLs of people Bog dislikes; the reason given is that Bog dislikes us for ‘being pedos/molesters’ and that anyone who interacts with our posts must also be.
And again, though I really shouldn’t have to, I will reiterate: I am neither a pedophile nor a rapist.
But that’s not what Bog’s “polite” “mature” “appropriate” DMs say.
Sexual harassment done in private is still sexual harassment.
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