disasterpieces86:

i remember one time someone tried to help me “”“recover”“” from identifying with a character who was an abuser (idfk man it made me feel better about the shit i went through) by saying “well why dont you identify with the VICTIM instead!!” so i did and it triggered me to the point i felt physically ill when i thought about her

I’m so sorry you went through that.

I remember when people were trying to coerce others into “dropping” “problematic” kintypes.

You can’t just decide what you feel about a character or how you relate to them internally, whether that’s kin stuff, fictive stuff, or any other relation to a character.

And trying to control other people’s emotions is incredibly toxic.