thesecondwetnote:

the-bar-sinister:

thesecondwetnote:

Is Blackmadhi healthy?

It’s something I have been wondering for a while. Like, it’s hot, they look great, got parallels in their backstories. But like, are they good for each other?
I feel like the ship is a lot of angry kisses and ‘I hate you but still wanna fuck you’. And sure, I get it, that is hot, but that’s not healthy.
I don’t wanna start any shit, but I feel like more people should say: The ‘I love to hate you’ vibe isn’t a healthy one.

Maybe there is something there I am not seeing, but as far as I can tell they aren’t actually good for each other.

I don’t know. If you have a different perspective I would love to hear it.

Must a ship be good for one another to be sexy and exciting to ship? It may or may not be healthy, but it can make for a fun pairing in fic and art.

I don’t think it’s necessary for a ship to be ideal or desirable to have in real life for it to be fun in fandom, although you might disagree!

@the-bar-sinister

No, you’re totally valid, it’s a totally valid ship. It’s a good ship, very sexy, I see why people like it, hell I like it.
I am wondering if there was something I was missing, some angle that made it healthier, or perspective I wasn’t getting.
Also, I feel like it should said, you know? Not everyone all the time, but someone should say it at some point.

Does that make sense?

That absolutely makes sense!

It seems like these days in fandom, the *default* assumption when you see a pairing being shipped is that the shipper believes that the pairing is healthy. I think it’s kind of interesting and odd that we’ve gotten to that place, because it didn’t used to be the assumption at all!

So these days I can definitely see taking a minute to take stock and ask ‘okay what do we actually feel about the interactions these characters have’!

I’m personally someone who thinks shipping rough and difficult relationships is a lot of fun, so this is a conversation that I personally like having!

Of course there are some people who *will* feel challenged by or criticized by any assumption that their ship is not perfectly healthy– which is unfortunate.

Its a shame so often that ship discussions turn into ship arguments.