Wait are you saying that people don’t usually want to kiss and cuddle and even sleep with their friends?I mean the sex thing for me is a little different because I’m asexual and hypersexual so for me sex is just a fun activity and a coping mechanism not at all related to any feelings of attraction. I don’t really care who I do it with. I mean that doesn’t mean that I don’t care for the people I sleep with or that i don’t find them very alluring, I do, it’s just like…I don’t have a particular preference for who I draw with or who I watch a movie with either, you know?But for kissing and cuddling, I… don’t think there are friends I don’t want to do that with? Like I’ve always considered it kinda an automatic thing? Like the line between platonic and romantic relationships is very thin and fluid to me? Also possibly because I have BPD and most of my relationships feel REALLY intense to me no matter if they’re romantic or platonic.
As far as my own life experience has been, people tell me that it’s not typical to want to kiss and cuddle with people you consider your platonic friends.
Obviously the line between romantic and platonic is probably different for everyone, but at least in my own experience this is a non-normative experience.
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