Kids, and I say this with all love, you can have a lengthy DNI or you can get mad when strangers block you with no prior explanation, but you cannot do both and expect to be treated like a grownup. If you ask people within certain demographics not to interact, you can’t be mad when they take steps to ensure they won’t.
Strong boundaries are good, and vocalizing your boundaries is good. It’s just that a boundary line works both ways, and if you don’t want to talk to me on principle, sometimes in practice that means you don’t get to talk to me. It’s a difficult thing to accept that not everyone wants to interact with you either, but being able to shrug and move on is part of becoming an adult.
Or you can keep yelling anonymously into the void of my inbox, up to you. Therapeutic I suppose, even if it’s also weirdly obsessive.
Saw someone on twitter the other day say their therapist told them “sometimes the people you think are toxic aren’t toxic they just don’t like you and you’re desperate” and I think thats something ppl who view blocking as problematic should take time to absorb
No amount of guilt trippy “reblogs help artist uwu” posts will change the fact that current tumblr culture does NOT reward reblogging.
I’ve been directly messaged by users to take down a days old reblog because they disagreed with me over discourse.
I’ve had anons in my inbox try to cancel me because I reblogged an innocuous post from a problematic person (they had no evidence about their claims). Because I do a comprehensive background check.
I’ve seen countless posts asking for reblogs, unless you’re a kinnie. Fuck that.
I’ve seen needless bullshit over spam reblogs, despite the fact that my spam rebloggers are some of my favorite mutuals?
The benefits of reblogging is the low chance you could make a new mutual and showing the friends this cool post you found. The drawbacks? Huge.
i always think about that study where they had adults hold a baby, and when they were told the baby was a girl the adults said she was cute and small, and when they were told the baby was a boy they said he was big and strong. they rated the baby’s ability to do things and tendency towards certain toys differently. they even held the baby differently. (x) or when they rated the baby’s physical ability to do various tasks such as climbing up a slope differently, (x) & when they measured how much parents told their girl children vs. their boy children to be careful and stop being so rowdy (x), & when they measured how often girls and boys were told to be quiet. (x)
this was, obviously, all unconscious behavior in the adults. they’re not all like, raving sexists who outspokenly believe that women can’t do stuff or that girls really should just be quieter, be more still than boys. like its not even counting the direct, actual messages, its just literally how every single person in your entire life treats you, and if asked they would probably deny that its even because you’re a girl. how the fuck am i supposed to believe this doesn’t affect a child’s development when its literally constant throughout the entire processÂ
This shit starts as soon as early as when someone’s still a fucking embryo. I’ve heard the saying “discrimination starts as soon as you leave the womb” but it actually starts earlier than that.