Heya, just dropping this here because I don’t really have anywhere else to. :’| So my joyfriend has been pro fic for a long time but today said that he might be more neutral, which is fine, but he also said some stuff abt how sh○ta and relative x relative “rots ur brain” and made him fantasize/have nightmares abt abusing a family member. I don’t really care if he’s just decided to back out of the discourse because it’s irritating but it sounds to me more like he’s backsliding into becoming an anti, which is scary to me because he knows enough that he could potentially doxx me if he decided I was too problematic or something. I’m afraid that if we separate he’ll like make a callout post abt me or something. I’ve known him for years and I can’t see him doing something like that, but I also never would have imagined him walking back on being pro fic, so idk what to expect anymore. Thoughts? Advice?

by on March 15, 2023 at 7:24 pm
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My advice is to come at this from a non-fandom angle.

Show him that all the “porn rots your brain” etc sex negative “research” actually comes from hyper conservative christian sources.

Make it a human sexuality issue, instead of a fandom issue and maybe he will understand where you’re coming from.

Is this person someone who knows you well IRL, or someone you’ve been dating exclusively on the internet? My advice for how to handle a potential breakup will be different depending on which.

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Just wanna vent without it being connected to me and you’re relevant and a beloved mutual. Latest dumbshit thing I’ve realized I need to unlearn is the dichotomy in reactions I have regarding gender/age to notes on my nsft posts. Not even posts of myself, just in general. It struck me due to that post about “men dni” on stuff, because I don’t do that but I’m guessing many people who do have this issue. Any time I see notes on that stuff from folks whose blogs identify them as men but not trans, and especially if they’re over 30, my instant emotional reaction is nothing like when it isn’t anyone else. It’s just automatic disgust and now I’m realizing like, it’s definitely an internalized “men’s sexuality is inherently predatory”, and yeah. I know it’s bad and now I’m trying to unlearn it, but I just wanted to vent in a way where nobody is going to misconstrue it as something I support doing. Already called myself out on it, but unlearning something you’ve internalized since childhood is hard.

by on March 15, 2023 at 7:24 pm
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We all internalize so much toxic ideology as we grow up, no matter what background we come from.

You are not bad for having internalized an instinctive disgust for men’s sexuality.

You are wonderful for recognizing it, and working to move past it.

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by on March 15, 2023 at 7:24 pm
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demongender-vibes:

antiproshipping:

blackheart-biohazards:

lostlittlelore:

blackheart-biohazards:

Creepasta anti wank day 2 morning roundup!

I’m sorry, did that last one including a complaint about premarital sex…?

“I personally agree that sexualizing gore is a big problem in the fandom, along with premarital sex and…”

Yes, they are complaining about premarital sex.

Thats the most fundamentalist Christian take ever from that last anon

antis: how do you compare us to purity culture that’s offensive to cult victims
also antis: anyways premarital sex should stay stigmatized also be banned from fiction

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