overall, this idea that sex is supposed to be a sequence that roughly follows kissing -> handjob -> blowjob -> penetration, and the subsequent idea that each of those steps is inherently more intense/intimate/pleasurable than the last.. is like literally such a nuclear heterosexual suburbs lawnmower-owner mindset.. no sex act is universally more intimate or pleasurable than any other. you can have anal sex that makes you want to die and a handjob that makes you want to propose. if one act is special and ideal to YOU, that’s great, but everyone needs to quit acting like we all have identical sexualities
