In light of certain reblogs to this account, I feel like I should clear something up for people who might be questioning or thinking some things about me.
In my description, I use the term “ship and let ship,” which means I don’t care what your favorite pairings are, or what your headcanons are, or what your favorite characters are, etc. You can like whatever you want in fiction; it’s fiction, after all, and we’re not responsible for other people’s inability to separate that from their own reality.
Pro-shippers use this term in a similar fashion. Now, while the term “pro-ship” in and of itself means anti-harassment and anti-censorship in fiction, there is a largely negative connotation surrounding the term due to the amount of community members who are openly into or who support paraphilias. Therefore, I do not like to consider myself pro-ship, because I do not want to be associated with a label that will warrant nothing but hate despite whether or not I fall into that category.
All in all, pro-shippers just want to be left alone so they can enjoy their fictional worlds in their own way. Not all of them condone paraphilias or rape fantasies or abuse or anything else that might be seen as “problematic” in the eyes of fandom. What they stand for is what the old fandoms stood for; you do your thing, they do their thing, and if you don’t agree, then you simply move on. You don’t harass or try to tell someone what content they can or cannot produce. That is censorship and will lead to more problems in the future rather than fix anything.
I believe in letting people enjoy whatever they please in a fictional setting where no real person will be harmed. If this means someone writes about non-consensual situations or other forms of abuse, then that is perfectly fine. The majority of writers or artists do this as a coping mechanism to deal with their own trauma. We are not romanticizing your trauma by dealing with our own.
If this stance makes you unfollow or block me, then I wish you all the best.
Again, I do not label myself as a pro-shipper because of the stigma around it and because of the content a lot of users in that community produce. I simply do not care if your opinions differ from mine and will not waste my energy attacking someone over a piece of fiction.
Remember: fiction only has the power to affect reality because we make it so; if you cannot separate your fictional fantasies from your own reality, then that is your problem and is not the content creator’s responsibility.
This all being said, this blog is a safe place for pro-shippers so long as you do not attempt to introduce paraphilia into my space. You can do whatever you want on your own blog, and I will block and blacklist tags as I must, but do not bring it to me.
“ship” is fandom slang based on the word “relationship”. if you say you ship two characters, you’re referring to their relationship.
and just like how there are different types of relationships, there are also different types of ships. if it can be a type of relationship, it can be a type of ship.
you can have romantic ships because you can have a romantic relationship.
you can have complicated ships because you can have a complicated relationship.
you can have incestous ships because you can have an incestous relationship. (Well, not legally, but it’s possible.)
you can’t have “a proship” because proship is not a type of relationship.
you can tell somebody you’re in a platonic relationship. you can tell somebody you’re in an abusive relationship. you can’t tell somebody “yeah, we’re in a proship relationship”. that’s not a thing. it doesn’t even sound right. there is no such thing as “a proship”. even if two proshippers were to date, you wouldn’t call their relationship “a proship” because that doesn’t make sense.
“proships” is not a word.
“proships” is not a word.
“proships” is not a word.
if you think it can be, then you’ve just proven that you know nothing about the definition behind proshipping.
the term you’re looking for is problematic ship. proshipping means “in favor of shipping” — it is not an act. it’s not synonymous with problematic shipping, and not every proshipper has nor likes problematic ships.
proship is a label that shows ones opinions and thoughts towards character shipping, ‘problematic’ fiction, censorship, and harassment over content. but it is not a type of ship or relationship.
I don’t even want to dignify this with a response. What is your fucking definition of abuse, because last I checked, feeding people sewing needles, doxxing minors, harassing people to the point of suicide, putting someone’s entire life in the spotlight so their every word can be watched and judged, punishing people in the group for not conforming to their shitty ideals of “morality”, cutting someone’s entire support system just for having a “bad” ship, telling people they deserve to be killed and raped for making fanart and giving people with OCD constant morality obsessions definitely qualifies as fucking abuse.
I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you just don’t understand the scope of the harm I’m talking about, because if you knew about that and still decided to leave this in my inbox, then you are a vile fucking human for downplaying the harm that the purity police have caused to fandom communities and to internet spaces in general. They fucking destroyed me, just like the mormon church destroyed me, and I will never forgive them for making me spiral into oblivion over a fucking label that just means, “hey, maybe we should not harass people over FUCKING SHIPS”!!!
And I wasn’t even abused that badly! Most of it just shaped my ideas of fiction being directly connected to real morality, which aligned with what I already believed from mormonism, but many have it far FAR worse, usually trans people and people of color. Many have been harassed to the point of suicide, but many more were simply left with a broken puritan psyche that takes years and YEARS to fully deconstruct and makes you more vulnerable to other cults like neo-nazism and radical feminism.
When I was about 12, I was so ashamed of my budding fictional crush that I cried for three days. When I was 15, I was told that only a real pedophile would write underage fiction. When I was 18, I was afraid of my sexual thoughts, leftover shame from years of purity culture eating away at me until even when I was free, I wasn’t really free, constantly scared of being judged. It’s only within the past few years that I’ve finally moved on to fully accept my weirdness and my own “bad” thoughts. At that point, antis had contributed to my shame about as much as the mormon church had, by implying that thoughts lead directly to action, especially if they’re sexual thoughts, meaning bad thoughts make you a bad person.
If you don’t believe me about that abuse, just look at the tag “#anti recipes” here on tumblr. It doesn’t take long to find examples. Death/rape threats, general harassment, suicide baits, false allegations, and much more. You’ll find every kind of bigotry in vast volumes. I’ve seen racism, sexism, transphobia, antisemitism, ableism, literally any way you can be bigoted, they’ve done it, and they’ve done it in VAST volumes.
And people like you make it easier for them to do so, by downplaying that harm and trying to gaslight their targets into thinking it’s really not as bad as it is.
Don’t cite the ancient magic to me, witch. I was there when it was written. Now get out of my sight.
