Hate the word ‘quirky’ people call themselves ‘quirky’ and ‘weird’ and then go an bully autistic and psychotic people. Bring back eccentric, i liked eccentric. Autistics and psychotics should reclaim eccentric
when we get into conversations of “liking this fictional thing means you support it IRL/want to do it to real people”, i immediately get a red flag off the person making that argument.
because, like… i write a LOT of stuff i have no interest in doing IRL. scary stuff, kinky stuff, a lot of super mundane stuff, too. my physical sex life doesn’t resemble the smut i write at all, even a little because my boundary between real life and fiction is solid. and it’s not like a “oooh i’m so good at resisting temptation” thing, i mean like, i write a lot of oral sex scenes and have zero interest in sucking a dick IRL. i write a lot of dark subject matter and unhealthy relationships, and i’m living in a happy, pretty boring marriage that i wouldn’t change for anything.
but someone who goes hard on “you like (noncon/incest fic/idk fucking teacher/student storyllines), you must want to (assault someone/fuck your sibling/bone down with your teacher or student)” stuff, it makes me think that person has a shaky boundary and they’re not very safe to be around. i become deeply worried about their impulse control and their ability to contextualize.
i’ve said it before, but i’d honestly rather spend my time with people who write triggery darkfic but have basic respect for others vs. people with a “good and virtuous” media and fanfic diet who can’t shut the fuck up about all those kinks no one is forcing them to read.
i think sometimes it’s not even that someone has a really unclear personal concept of the difference between fiction and reality, it’s that they think everyone else is stupid and evil, because they get a huge thrill out of being smart and good.
like, the kind of people who spend all their time on the internet finding people to fight will find plenty of enemies, and if they can’t find any ready to hand, they’ll make some. ‘everyone who likes things that gross me out must only be doing that because they’re disgusting people’ is such a wonderful thing to believe, because then you’re never wrong, about anything, ever.
I always find it funny when people write bdsm erotica where the dom is really aggressive and demanding and the sub is all sweet and innocent when I feel like more often than not the dynamic is a sub who asks for the most insane, out of pocket, dangerous, borderline illegal, unhinged shit and a dom who’s like “hmmm ok yeah maybe we can scale that back a bit”
im going to ballgag you and then you’re going to rob the federal reserve
