You are very kind

by admin on January 22, 2023 at 10:26 pm

Anon, that’s very sweet of you to say, and we really appreciate hearing it.

A lot of us in sinister system struggle with a lot of negative, angry, and even violent thoughts.

We all do our best not to direct those feelings and impulses at other people who could be hurt by them, but it is not something that’s natural.

It’s something that takes work.

I am so proud of my system members, especially Harry (🌺😈) and Toko (😼🔪) who work so hard to share kindness and love, to be kind to others, and even to themselves.

There was a long time for us where that wasn’t something that they were good at, and they have come so far.

So it means a lot to hear from you, anon.

And I want to say to everyone else who sees this post: it’s okay if kindness is not your first instinct. It’s okay to not be ‘naturally’ kind.

If you are someone who chooses to be kind, then I am so happy, and proud of you.

└ Tags: blog updates, compassion, empathy, kindness, mental health discussion, philosophy, proship, Uncategorized, 🎀💖

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by admin on January 22, 2023 at 10:11 pm

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Some ideas for ways to celebrate your relationship with your F/O

💖 Curation based

Hoard pictures of your F/O on social media, a website, or saved on your harddrive.
Print out pictures of your F/O and create a shrine for them on your wall, or in a binder or folder.
Buy and display merchandise of your F/O.
Watch fan videos, character analyses, and meme compilations etc about your F/O.
Reblog self ship imagines that you like, and tag your F/O in them.
Reblog memes and posts that remind you of your F/O, and tag your F/O in them.
Put together a playlist of music that reminds you of your F/O.

💖 Creation based

Make a self-insert character to ship with your F/O.
Make fanart about you/your S/I and your F/O
Write fanfiction about you/your S/I and your F/O.
Write a song or a poem about your F/O.
Write a character analysis of your F/O.
Edit screencaps of your F/O.
Make memes about your F/O.
Make crafts dedicated to or featuring your F/O.
Write a love letter to your F/O.
Write a love letter from your F/O.
Create a wedding certificate for you and your F/O.
Make moodboards and stimboards for your F/O.
Writesome F/O imagines that make you think of your F/O
Create an F/O prompt list or ask game with your F/O in mind.
Answer questions about your F/O from F/O prompts and ask games
Make picrews based on your and your F/O.

└ Tags: f/o community, fictional other, proselfship, proship self ship, proship selfship, self ship, self ship community, self shipping, selfship, Uncategorized, 🎀💖

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Hey, do you guys have any tips on how to deal with seeing your F/O being shipped with someone in their source material? I’m a bit self conscious and I’m scared that my F/O doesn’t like me anymore..

by admin on January 22, 2023 at 9:56 pm

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boyoutdated:

blackheart-biohazards:

Oh gosh, anon. That isn’t something we really have experience with, but it super does suck…

My best advice would be to either

a) avoid the source material as much as you can, and just enjoy your F/O outside of that

b) treat ‘canon’ as an AU to your canon with you and your F/O.

Whatever you do, make sure to block all the ship tags for the pairing you’re trying to avoid on tumblr!

i wanted to add a little onto this bc i deal w this immensely.

when u filter their ship names, make sure it’s filtered tag and the filtered content. if their ship name has other variations and is in different languages, filter it. there r times where artists and writers will post their ship content untagged (sobs) immediately block them, don’t dwell on the post and doesn’t matter if u like their art style or not. block them. and don’t let it deter u from scrolling through ur f/o’s tags.

after mastering the art of blocking, filtering and being blissfully ignorant, it’s enough for me.

after doing some blocking & filtering, if ur still feeling down, indulge in ur f/o’s x reader tag, their headcanons, do some selfship ask games or use them as prompts. ur f/o’s r urs alone, they’re not gonna leave u.

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It felt so horrid to be chased out of places, one was an amino where they had a space for controversial topics and I was discussing it there and the mods kicked me out of the chat and gave me a warning. So I left because I felt unwanted.I had a huge NSSI meltdown over it as it was a very dear space, I was there for years, I tried so hard to be kind and help people and met lots of good friends. I was even a mod at one point and they liked me, I hate how quickly they turned on me. I still miss it now and trying to make my own space but it’s not going well.I feel lonely online now, and mobility is getting harder so that’s making social more difficult, and at work sometimes I feel like it’s hard to talk to people. Anti just makes no sense to me, it seems hypocritical and nasty and counter productive. Art shouldn’t be a crime.

by admin on January 22, 2023 at 9:54 pm

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Anon, I am so sorry that that happened to you.

Online socialization is so, so important for so many of use that are homebound. It’s another dimension of antis ableism that that is something they don’t even take into account.

I hope you can find a space online where you feel wanted and where you belong.