“Liking taboo thing in fiction is FINE, but god forbid u make it SEXY and HORNY!!!”
Not 2 be rude but what the fuck. Just because there are erotic elements and shit added doesn’t suddenly make people lose all sense of morality.
This idea that “desire” is this all powerful feeling that can make you lose control and disregard morals is an argument created to protect rapists. It attempts to absolve guilt of violation from parties who disregard other parties consent (or disregard if they even CAN consent.) by incorrectly smearing sexual desire and the strength of that desire as something that can even overpower self control, it gives a justification and leeway as to why a party violated another parties consent.
Sexual desire and horniness don’t work like that, have never worked like that and never WILL work like that. And to even entertain the argument as valid even for a second? Is fucking dangerous. I get that these sexual feelings are scary especially when they’re geared towards something “strange” and “weird” or morally reprehensible irl. But falling back on arguments used to perpetuate rape culture to try and justify why it’s “wrong” when all it does is cause personal discomfort is like… actually really bad.
The thing is, you don’t have to have a diagnoses to make simple “unmasking” changes that make your life easier. You don’t even have to self-diagnose! You are not appropriating anyone’s culture or struggles or hijacking anyone’s movement by allowing yourself to sway in line at the grocery store or buying a weighted blanket or using study or household hacks intended for people with ADHD. If you start favoring the needs that make your brain and body unique over the arbitrary norms of society, you’ll be better off, and you’ll be expanding the norms. It’s a win/win.
