Thanks for the recs! We followed Poppy for a while. Maybe we should get back into her stuff.
We’’ll check out the other ones too!
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Anon, the advice I give you depends strongly on an important factor.
Are your F/Os system members, soulbonds, or other real, people with agency of their own that you share your internal experience with in some way?
or are they just fictional characters that you write about and enjoy and play pretend with?
Because if they’re just fictional characters then it is impossible to manipulate them in any meaningful way. It’s like saying you’re manipulating a doll or a teddy bear. It’s ridiculous. There’s no need for you to feel guilty about any of it, because there is no real person for you to harm. Full stop. You’re fine.
If they’re system members, or other internal people with agency then it could be possible that you have been manipulative, or that your actions have caused harm.
Here’s what you should do if your F/O is a real internal person with agency that you worry you have been manipulating.
The same thing you’d do with any other partner you worried that you had caused harm to.
Talk to them about your feelings.
Communicate with them.
Ask them what they want, and if they feel harmed.
And if they do feel harmed, apologize, and ask them how you would like to proceed in the future.
We really gotta play the new pokemon….
It really can be the case.
Because if you tag, then when fancops decide they want to harass somebody for the contents of that tag, they know right where to find you.
But if you don’t tag, no one can filter it and people will come upon it by accident.
Anon, we are so glad to meet you, an so glad our posts resonated with you!
This part in your message stood out to me
we have some fictives sure but he feels like… a different type of fictive i have no idea how to explain it)
I think you should check out some posts over at our (very out of date) blog @soulbonder and see if some of the experiences talked about over there resonate with you.
Please feel free to put anything you like in our inbox if you want to talk more about your experiences.