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Um, hi! I had a question about plurality. I’m not good at being concise so TL;DR our host feels half-dormant??? Advise???Our host is…it’s hard to explain. So, for an idea of how this works for us, when someone fronts they can usually imagine themself into the inner world, and feel around for other headmates. This isn’t perfect but it works. Importantly, anyone who’s close to the Front will be easier to feel for, and anyone who’s deeper in will need to be called on and broight forward. Usually, our host (because he’s ALWAYS close to the front) is pretty easy to find, rarely far from the “front-zone” at all unless he’s actively exploring around while fronted. It’s weird. Lately, though, he was feeling really out of it and struggling to stay grounded in reality (delusions and stuff on top of the dissociation). Now, two days later, we’ve had a new headmate pop in (a younger boy who may or may not be tied to our host), and our host is? Gone? Like we can find him but he looks…half-there, like a ghost. Like he’s between dimensions or something. Is this just one of the “less fun” parts of plurality nobody ever talks about (and will run it’s course) or should we like…do something?🧡🩶 (to find this later in case I miss it)

by on May 9, 2024 at 3:37 pm
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Hi friends! Thanks for reaching out, and I’m sorry you’re in a stressful position right now. If what you’re looking for is assurance that this is not an uncommon plural experience, and that this has happened to other plurals, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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I’ve been questioning whether or not I am plural. I’m not sure if what I go through qualifies as being plural because I maintain my memories somewhat (things feel hazy after the fact but in the moment I remember) and I only feel out of control of my own body when I’m having a bad day. Every other day feels normal and I don’t hear anyone else in my head. I’m so confused and lost, do you think you could help explain what it means to be plural to me? Thanks in advance

by on January 20, 2024 at 1:11 am
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Hey friend. I’m sorry you’re struggling right now. Every plural experience is different, but I hope I can give you some helpful advice here. I can’t tell you if you’re plural or not– only the person or persons experiencing existence[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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Hey I’ve been hit with a Realization Truck and now I’m wondering I…we might be plural? Any advice?

by on June 5, 2023 at 4:25 pm
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Be as kind to and patient with your system mates as possible. Living together in one body is like living together in one house, everybody has to make sacrifices, and treat one another with respect the best they can, or[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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do you have any resources for people who are questioning if theyre a system or not??? im sorry if this is a weird question but idk where else to go. have a great day!!

by on June 2, 2023 at 4:32 pm
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I’m really sorry, anon, this is actually something we don’t have. We have lots of resources for questioning being fictionkin, otherkin, etc, but we have been plural for so long and it’s so innate to our life and how we[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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One of my former friends used to support me, comfort me when I was down over people harassing me for my F/O, but when they turned their back on me they said I was problematic for loving my F/O, and “forcing them” to do these things for me… Like, manipulating them into comforting and indulging me. I still fear that this is actually what I did without realizing it.

by on January 26, 2023 at 8:14 pm
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Anon, the advice I give you depends strongly on an important factor. Are your F/Os system members, soulbonds, or other real, people with agency of their own that you share your internal experience with in some way? or are they[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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so i’m a little apprehensive to say anything about this, because i feel like i’m just appropriating real trauma and real problems, but a couple of years back i had a friend group that gave me the space to like, try functioning as a system (i really can’t think of the proper term for this, apologies), and it really did something for me. it’s hard to figure out the proper words for things, but it sort of did feel like i was shifting alters and actually acknowledging that and communicating with them was really helpful for me, and it was the most mentally healthy that i’ve felt in a really long time. but i stopped doing it once i left that friend group because they then told me i was faking it (none of those friends were systems, none even had any knowledge on mental health beyond adhd tiktok and the like). i genuinely feel a lot of guilt and shame saying this though, because i have a lot of friends who are plural/systems and i feel like i’m doing things that i shouldn’t, that aren’t for me. this was mostly a ramble bc this is really hard for me to talk about but i just wanted you to know that your posts about plurality and talking to people who are new to understanding their systems and everything regarding it are extremely comforting to read even as someone who has no idea if they are plural or not. thank you for your time <3

by on January 6, 2023 at 2:54 pm
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Anon, I am so sorry that your former friends abused your trust, isolated, exiled, and fakeclaimed you. You did not do anything to deserve that treatment. I hope you will listen to me when I say this to you. If[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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Do you have any advice/resources on how to contact a potential headmate? I feel like I might have a system but I can’t seem to reach or “talk to” any of the members or find an inner world or anything.

by on January 6, 2023 at 1:57 am
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lostlittlelorelei: blackheart-biohazards: Your best bet is to just keep trying to initiate contact and conversation, even if you don’t feel like you’re getting a response. When you’re picking something to eat, ask for someone else’s input. When you’re watching something,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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Do you have any advice/resources on how to contact a potential headmate? I feel like I might have a system but I can’t seem to reach or “talk to” any of the members or find an inner world or anything.

by on January 6, 2023 at 12:47 am
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Your best bet is to just keep trying to initiate contact and conversation, even if you don’t feel like you’re getting a response. When you’re picking something to eat, ask for someone else’s input. When you’re watching something, ask what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…

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