usunezukoinezu: “People who lacked emotional engagement in childhood, men and women alike, often can’t believe that someone would want to have a relationship with them just because of who they are. They believe that if they want closeness, they must[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am a full person with my own independent goals, desires and concerns. It is not my duty to be interesting, entertaining, helpful, convenient or productive for others at all times. I deserve rest. I deserve to engage in my[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
repeatedly sobbing “do what you want forever” as I desperately try to convince myself that it’s okay to make small decisions about the short term direction of my life without concern for the opinions of other people.
traumatizeddfox: “but it wasn’t that bad” did it hurt? did you feel scared? unsafe? were you embarrassed? humiliated? terrified? did you feel confused on why? does it keep you up at night? do you avoid being in a similar situation?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
thoradvice: to everyone who’s lost a mom, has suffered abuse from their mom, has no or a strained relationship to their mom, is struggling to concieve, or anything else that makes today hard, i see you. you have every right[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
ibelivedinmyself: fennecandco: Trauma didn’t make me nice, I consciously made me nice because I don’t want anyone else to suffer like I did. Trauma didn’t make me strong, I made me strong. Don’t you dare ever tell me my trauma[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
So apparently people don’t realize that Athena Cykes “power” is an exaggerated for narrative purposes version of something that a lot of hypersensitive autistic people, abuse and trauma survivors actually experience. “I can hear their emotions in the tone of[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
traumasurvivors: To my fellow child abuse survivors, it’s okay to not sugarcoat everything all the time. You don’t have to talk about how hard your parents tried, or that there were good times. It’s okay to say “my childhood was[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
lizardsfromspace: Writing is so much fun! You can be like “I should process this” and just go nuh-huh, see, I’m going to make up a guy and have them process it for me. Not me! It’s the guy I made!
steamandcream: thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am not going to write fiction about my trauma in a way that you approve of. I am going to write fiction about my trauma in a way that makes me feel better.
What a lovely thing to wake up to– being told that our childhood abuse and trauma didn’t happen. People are so kind and gentle these days. 🤷
dead-pidoves-dirt-takes: I’m literally begging y’all not to disclose your trauma in order to justify and validate your tastes in fiction. The people who are or you fear are going to get on your case about your fantasies, taste in fiction[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
sweatermuppet: i think “oh my childhood doesn’t even impact me that much” & then im Afraid To Sit in The Living Room
craycraybluejay: I also heavily resent the ever-present implication in mainstream media that at all touches on trauma that we cannot have any sympathy for Bad Victims. That it’s evil to write a sympathetic Bad Victim. Hell, that it’s bad to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
the-real-seebs: flawlest: The scariest shit I see always comes from people who are quite confident that, being very loving, they could not be doing anything abusive.
myfandomrealitea: If you tell victims they need to be ashamed of how they cope with or heal from their trauma and that they need to be hidden and silent about it because you disagree with it or it makes you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s always okay to make things easier for yourself. There is no special prize in life for doing things the hard way.
cosmicdayglow: Re-parenting yourself is like: I will hold you because no one ever did. I will show you tenderness because all you ever knew was hardship. I will protect you when everyone else left you to fend for yourself. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hajihiko: 🌤hello again, happiness🌤 (That AU where the boys help Hajime rediscover his feelings, prompted on Instagram)
oceansys: i always see positivity posts about survivors that were forced to grow up early, and that’s great, but what about those of us who weren’t allowed to grow up at all? those of us who were sheltered, trapped, controlled?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
freezing-and-i-fall: freezing-and-i-fall: americasfineasscaptain: sofsstucky: How FALCON AND THE WINTER SOLDIER Villainizes Trauma – Nerdist Maybe I should write a separate post, but I’m lazy so I’m just going to add my two cents to what this article already so well[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oceansys: i always see positivity posts about survivors that were forced to grow up early, and that’s great, but what about those of us who weren’t allowed to grow up at all? those of us who were sheltered, trapped, controlled?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
freezing-and-i-fall: freezing-and-i-fall: americasfineasscaptain: sofsstucky: How FALCON AND THE WINTER SOLDIER Villainizes Trauma – Nerdist Maybe I should write a separate post, but I’m lazy so I’m just going to add my two cents to what this article already so well[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Our abusive IRL father was a child groomer. When we were young, he would repeatedly take in young teenage runaways, often who were addicted to drugs and alcohol, give them a place to stay in our home, and keep them[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hot take; saying someone “was groomed” and giving no other information about it gives me literally zero idea of what kind of abuse was actually done to the person. Which is totally okay if you don’t want to share your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
🔹 It’s okay to have a bad relationship with your mother. 🔹It’s okay to not have a relationship with your mother. 🔹It’s okay to not want to have a relationship with your mother. 🔹You are a complete and whole person[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon you are absolutely wonderful. You are a complete and whole person whether you have a relationship or not. I’m so sorry that people make you feel like you were broken, and I hope that you continue on your journey[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hmmm, anon, in my experience there are two possibilities here. Possibility one: like a lot of people you have traumatic experiences that you have not yet processed and understood as trauma. When you talk about these experiences it makes other[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…