usunezukoinezu: “People who lacked emotional engagement in childhood, men and women alike, often can’t believe that someone would want to have a relationship with them just because of who they are. They believe that if they want closeness, they must[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am a full person with my own independent goals, desires and concerns. It is not my duty to be interesting, entertaining, helpful, convenient or productive for others at all times. I deserve rest. I deserve to engage in my[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
repeatedly sobbing “do what you want forever” as I desperately try to convince myself that it’s okay to make small decisions about the short term direction of my life without concern for the opinions of other people.
traumatizeddfox: “but it wasn’t that bad” did it hurt? did you feel scared? unsafe? were you embarrassed? humiliated? terrified? did you feel confused on why? does it keep you up at night? do you avoid being in a similar situation?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
thoradvice: to everyone who’s lost a mom, has suffered abuse from their mom, has no or a strained relationship to their mom, is struggling to concieve, or anything else that makes today hard, i see you. you have every right[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
tlirsgender: tlirsgender: tlirsgender: Honestly every time a fictional serial killer is an abuse survivor I’m just like ok. Good for them So much horror/crime/etc media is like “what if someone who has been repeatedly harmed in horrific unspeakable ways when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
So apparently people don’t realize that Athena Cykes “power” is an exaggerated for narrative purposes version of something that a lot of hypersensitive autistic people, abuse and trauma survivors actually experience. “I can hear their emotions in the tone of[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
traumasurvivors: To my fellow child abuse survivors, it’s okay to not sugarcoat everything all the time. You don’t have to talk about how hard your parents tried, or that there were good times. It’s okay to say “my childhood was[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
tigerjpg: tigerjpg: nothing makes me go “ooooh we are NOT the same” quite like reading some post about how people talk with their parents about their interests. what do you mean you told your father about stevebucky. what do you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
So yeah since it’s come up I’m just going to say flat out that a lot of our personal whump content– specifically a lot of our human weapon whump, and our whump recovery stuff– is reflective of and part of[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
worthless-mess: “You’re so polite” thanks i was raised in constant fear of upsetting people.
I’m going to be brutally, bluntly honest and vulnerable for a moment. I don’t have any positive familial connections. I don’t have any mothers or fathers, or sisters or brothers or aunts or uncles or cousins who were supportive, or[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am not going to write fiction about my trauma in a way that you approve of. I am going to write fiction about my trauma in a way that makes me feel better.
self-loving-vampire: self-loving-vampire: I feel like a lot of people don’t really fully grasp the idea that abusive parents exist and are both common and, to a degree, socially acceptable. Like, they may be aware of the fact but have not[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
[IMAGE ID: a snippet of a donation post where the term for an internet pay site has been censored out to avoid being caught by people’s filters. end image id] YOU SHOULD NOT DO THIS. I don’t care how in[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
What a lovely thing to wake up to– being told that our childhood abuse and trauma didn’t happen. People are so kind and gentle these days. 🤷
adustoflove: professionally diagnosed with people treated me like absolute shit so now I’m mentally fucked for life disorder
I used to talk more about my experiences of having endured child abuse, and other abusive situations publicly on tumblr. And then the blog I discussed those things on was banned for doing so, nuked so hard that every post[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
exmojoe: Is your love language really acts of service or were you raised with the sole purpose of being a caregiver for all of eternity??
stuckinapril: True isolation is when everyone else is talking about their vibrant teenage experience and you’re like. I was just trying to survive
traumasurvivors: Sometimes abuse is disguised as “punishment”. And I want you to know if your trauma comes from “punishment”, that you are completely valid. You didn’t deserve it.
that moment when you realize that you’ve made yourself way too emotionally available again and suddenly you’re a deer in the woods and a twig has snapped in the brush.
enyafans4communism: sorry my family didn’t teach me that i have a place among others so now i’m weird . sorry
sweatermuppet: i think “oh my childhood doesn’t even impact me that much” & then im Afraid To Sit in The Living Room
craycraybluejay: I also heavily resent the ever-present implication in mainstream media that at all touches on trauma that we cannot have any sympathy for Bad Victims. That it’s evil to write a sympathetic Bad Victim. Hell, that it’s bad to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
the-real-seebs: flawlest: The scariest shit I see always comes from people who are quite confident that, being very loving, they could not be doing anything abusive.
I had to ignore that youtube video for *months*, every time the algorithm brought it up on my page. A person cannot be groomed by a piece of fiction. Grooming is an intentional act that is perpetrated on purpose by[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
b3ne4iento: Why are people trying to defend r@pe, incest, and all that fucked up shit people been writing under the Leon tag? Why are y’all getting mad when people call you out on your disgusting writing? It’s so weird that[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s always okay to make things easier for yourself. There is no special prize in life for doing things the hard way.
cosmicdayglow: Re-parenting yourself is like: I will hold you because no one ever did. I will show you tenderness because all you ever knew was hardship. I will protect you when everyone else left you to fend for yourself. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oceansys: i always see positivity posts about survivors that were forced to grow up early, and that’s great, but what about those of us who weren’t allowed to grow up at all? those of us who were sheltered, trapped, controlled?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oceansys: i always see positivity posts about survivors that were forced to grow up early, and that’s great, but what about those of us who weren’t allowed to grow up at all? those of us who were sheltered, trapped, controlled?[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
then maybe dont talk about your trauma on tumblr? there are other places where you can talk about such shit. no one wanna hear bout that here blackheartxbiohazards
It’s a really typical abuser trait to call the victim of their abuse “abusive” for responding to their abuse with anger. It’s victim blaming. You’re allowed to be mad at people who hurt you. You don’t have to show respect[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Absolutely. Source: xxblackheartbiohazardsxx
Hey folks, pro-abuse bullying anon is back. Or another one like ’em. Come get your free thumps in since they love and value abuse so much. This guy wants to be the fun police? Show ’em how we treat cops.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It absolutely has the exact vibes. Like bullying anon what you are doing is perpetuating the cycle of abuse. context link Source: xxblackheartbiohazardsxx
Our abusive IRL father was a child groomer. When we were young, he would repeatedly take in young teenage runaways, often who were addicted to drugs and alcohol, give them a place to stay in our home, and keep them[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hot take; saying someone “was groomed” and giving no other information about it gives me literally zero idea of what kind of abuse was actually done to the person. Which is totally okay if you don’t want to share your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The irony is that Bella actually wields a lot of personal agency in Twilight, she just doesn’t use it in socially approved Strong Female Character ™️ways. Sending love, anon, sorry your parent was like that. Source: xxblackheartbiohazardsxx
smokedsalmoniloveyou: neglect is kinda like grooming in the way that you’re proud of it when you’re so young because you’re special and mature and maybe it wouldn’t be okay with another kid but you’re different than them. you’re better. it[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oneangstymotherfucker: Tw for vague csa/abuse mention Sometimes, yeah, I “get off to” the fics I write. And I definately like hearing that other people enjoy them, because I think everyone deserves things they enjoy and it truly makes me happy[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
huntinglove: A reminder: You don’t have to forgive your harassers/stalkers Being wary of people who’ve hurt and scarred you doesn’t make them “the bigger person” You deserve to feel safe within your online spaces, your boundaries and well being should[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
People are still hating on reylo? I don’t get it, I really don’t get it. It’s such an absolutely basic enemies to lovers ship. It’s canon. Source: xxblackheartbiohazardsxx
💯💯💯💯 Someone else controlling your interests and behavior through fear is ABUSE. Source: xxblackheartbiohazardsxx
🔹 It’s okay to have a bad relationship with your mother. 🔹It’s okay to not have a relationship with your mother. 🔹It’s okay to not want to have a relationship with your mother. 🔹You are a complete and whole person[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Sometimes I think I should reopen my 5k followers parental abuse survivor support blog. And then I remember how miserable and demoralizing and powerless it felt to run, and how awful it seemed for a blog like that to get[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
beaniebaneenie: headspace-hotel: littledeconstruction: jaywrites101: rogha: ravingsrandom: Holy fucking shit yeah I’d carry that one over too Stuff like this hit’s really close to home with me because I had an abusive paternal figure growing up. It’s easy for you to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You hit the nail on the head with the part about people “using boundaries as weapons.” Its awful. You cannot use boundaries to try to control other people. That’s not what a boundary is. A boundary is saying “if you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hmmm, anon, in my experience there are two possibilities here. Possibility one: like a lot of people you have traumatic experiences that you have not yet processed and understood as trauma. When you talk about these experiences it makes other[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I want to be the person I needed when I was little So much of that sentiment drives our motivation too, anon. You sound like a wonderful person, and I’m glad that these kids have you to rely on.
To all of us who need to hear it today: “they’re family” doesn’t mean it isn’t abuse. “they never hit me” doesn’t mean it isn’t abuse. You don’t have to like someone who violates your boundaries. Being nice to you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
“motherhood and pregnancy aren’t comparable to drawn pedophilia or rape or incest, though, are they? @eerie-entityy do you realize that what you have just said is that you think that some people’s trauma and triggers are not as important as[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…